My Ex Apologized For Hurting Me: What To Do?

So recently, someone commented on one of our posts saying “My ex apologized for hurting me, what should I do?”

Now, this is a serious matter and if you’re going through it, you’d understand how confusing it can be. Why has your ex apologized? Should you forgive them? and most importantly, should you go back? These are the questions that can keep haunting you in such a case.

So, let us just go through this issue together and start by analyzing some reasons your ex might have apologized.

Summary

Understanding the reasons behind your ex’s apology is crucial, as it can range from wanting you back to saving their reputation.
Give yourself and your ex space and time to process emotions before making any hasty decisions.
Assess the sincerity of the apology by observing if your ex repeats their mistakes or shows genuine remorse.
If considering reconciliation, ensure your ex is genuinely sorry and willing to address the underlying issues that led to the breakup.
Respond to the apology based on your assessment of its necessity, either addressing it or subtly indicating it’s not required.

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Reasons Your Ex Has Apologized For Hurting You

There are many faces to a person’s apology, here are some of your Ex’s possible intentions behind their apology.

1. Your Ex Might Have Apologized Because They Want You Back

Now, this is a tricky one. If your ex has really apologized for hurting you, then it can mean that he/she wants to come back into the relationship again. However, there might be some ulterior motive behind it as well (like trying to trick you into coming back and then hurting you again!).

Therefore, it’s important that when your ex says that they have apologized because they have realized their mistake and want to return to the relationship with you, you need to find out what went wrong in the first place.

Did your Ex cheat on you? Is it because of a fight or argument that led to the breakup? Anything! You have to know exactly why your ex wants to come back into the relationship so much so that he/she is even willing to apologize for all their mistakes in order to win your trust back.

2. Your Ex Apologized Because They Miss You And Don’t Want To Lose You

It might be possible that your ex has realized that they overreacted and overthought the entire breakup situation. Maybe he/she was so overwhelmed with emotions that either they didn’t realize what mistake they were doing or maybe, there is something else behind it as well (see #1).

Still, if this is the case, then you can give them a second chance and see how it turns out for you. If you feel like your ex has really thought about it and realized their mistake, then why shouldn’t you be willing to take them back? Maybe giving one more chance will help both of you make up for all those months spent apart from each other.

3. No Reason In Particular – Your Ex Apologized Out Of The Blue

This is one of the most confusing reasons because you really do not know what to make out of it. Your ex might have apologized for no reason which makes you wonder if they are doing it just because you broke up or did something else play a role in it as well?

Maybe your breakup was very sudden and your ex is having second thoughts about letting you go. Maybe he/she wants to work on things but isn’t sure how to get around into that. The best way would be for them talk about what happened between the two of you.

Explain why they got so overwhelmed with emotions and take some time out before trying to rekindle the relationship again. If nothing works out, then maybe moving on is the best option for both of you.

4. It Was An Accident And Your Ex Apologized Because He/She Didn’t Mean To Hurt You

In this situation, it is always important to look at the bigger picture before jumping into conclusions. Maybe your ex didn’t plan on apologizing but something happened. Hence, he/she had no other choice but to apologize in order to get out of the situation.

Maybe the apology was a knee-jerk reaction because they were caught off guard or maybe it was a heartfelt gesture that seemed like the right thing to do in that moment. There are a lot of possibilities here, so give your partner some time and space before deciding whether you want them back in your life again or not.

5. Your Ex Might Have Apologized To Save Their Reputation

In some cases, it might be possible that your ex has apologized because they felt like what they did was wrong and didn’t want to lose their reputation in the society or among friends. Maybe he/she feels bad for letting you go and is desperately trying to win you back into their life so that they can have a more successful career as well.

If this is the case, then taking him/her back would be a good idea if you feel comfortable with them being around during job interviews or other important situations where your partner needs you by his/her side.

6. Your Ex Apologized Because They Want You Out Of Their Life For Good

This might be a little confusing because your partner apologized but why would he/she apologize if they wanted you out of their life for good? Maybe something happened that changed their mind about whether or not they wanted you back.

Perhaps, it was a mistake and your ex is apologizing so that they can get rid of the guilt from their conscience once and for all. Whatever the reason may be, make sure you think things through before coming to any conclusions.

7. Your Ex Was Drunk And Apologized In The Morning For No Particular Reason

In this case, your ex got really drunk because of something important and ended up apologizing for no particular reason which is why it’s confusing for you to make sense out of all the emotions going through his/her head at the moment.

They might not be ready to talk about what happened and don’t want to waste their time thinking about it as well. The best thing for them would be to apologize and then move on with their lives, because if they keep dwelling on the past, it will only make things worse for everyone involved.

8. Your Ex Apologized Because They Wanted To End Things On A Good Note

This is a polite way of ending a relationship where your ex felt like there was nothing more to say after apologizing which is why you have no idea what made them apologize in the first place. Perhaps, saying sorry was the only option they could think of without hurting your feelings.

What Should I Do If My Ex Apologized For Hurting Me?

Well, the best thing for you to do in this situation would be to give yourself and your partner some space and time. This way, they you both get over your emotions without feeling overwhelmed.

Apologizing is a difficult task, especially if you are truly sorry for what happened between the two of you.

Forcing them to talk about it would be unfair and could ruin the progress they might have made already. If you’re really serious about getting back together with them, then give them the time and space they need to sort out their feelings before jumping into conclusions or making any quick decisions.

However, if you feel like your partner is trying to apologize for something that didn’t bother you in the first place, then there really isn’t a point of giving him/her another chance because they don’t even know what led to the breakup in the first place.

How To Know If Their Apology Was Sincere?

The best way to know if your partner’s apology was sincere is by staying calm and not letting your emotions get the better of you. If they are truly sorry, then give them time to sort out their feelings without interrupting them or asking too many questions.

However, if your ex keeps apologizing every now and then and repeat their mistakes, it might be a red flag. This could also mean that he/she doesn’t have an emotional connection with you anymore. Which means there isn’t any point in wasting your time trying to convince yourself otherwise.

If My Ex Is Truly Sorry, Should We Get Back Together?

When you ex appears out of the blue being this nice, there’s an urge of being told that you should get back to them and you can’t ever find someone better.

However, you should never jump into conclusions because the person might not be sorry for what they did but rather that you found out about it. It’s like an apology with no strings attached and no guilt involved whatsoever.

So, yes, it is possible to go back to them but make sure they are truly sorry otherwise you will end up in the same situation all over again.

The best idea would be to give them time to sort out their feelings without feeling overwhelmed because if they are sorry, they will understand that there’s no point of apologizing if you don’t hear what they have to say.

How Should I Respond To An Apology From My Ex?

If you feel like an apology is not really necessary then say so right away but be subtle about it. If you act like nothing happened, your ex might think that you don’t care about what he/she did in the past which means they will start doing the same thing again if you got back together.

However, if you feel like they are truly sorry for everything that happened between the two of you then move on with your lives and don’t rush things because the best thing to do is get back into a relationship with your ex slowly just like how you got used to each other.

The reason for this is that if you get back together too quickly, it might ruin everything all over again just like what happened in the past.

So, take your time and if they truly are sorry, then give them a second chance because you might never find someone who is compatible with you again.

Conclusion

The best way to know if your ex is truly sorry would be by staying calm and giving them enough time so that they can sort out their emotions. Apologizing is a difficult task, especially if you are truly sorry for what happened between the two of you.

So, take your time and if they truly are sorry, then give them a second chance.